At a time when the principle of reciprocity of pleasures between spouses prevails, it is difficult for men to experience frequent sexual breakdowns. However, erectile dysfunction (ED) does not necessarily imply a drop in male libido. If a man did not want to have sex, he simply would not even try. This sexual issue only refers to a man's inability to achieve or maintain an erection. Dear ladies, he needs your support (literally and figuratively).
As for men, you need to be open and communicate with your partner if you don’t want this situation to morph into the reason for your breakup.
What should couples avoid during a sexual breakdown?
When conversations around your man's erection problems begin, and he is not fully receptive but being distant or aggressive, it is best to refrain and postpone the discussion. It is a sensitive issue- do not seek convenience in timing to talk about it, but seek comfort from both parties involved.
Also, be careful not to put pressure on your partner. Skip those scented candles and keep the sexy lingerie away. All this is only going to make him feel like he’s not living up to your sexual desires.
Don’t start blaming yourself and questioning your partner’s love. We repeat, he has not lost his desire, just his functionality to fulfill it, and that too, mostly temporarily.
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5 simple ways to cope with erectile dysfunction in relationships
Communication at the right time and in the right manner can help solve issues over time. Here’s how you can help your partner by taking baby steps in the right direction:
- Reassure him about your feelings: Build trust and help him relax by putting your love and desire in words. Show him that his erection is not the most important aspect of your relationship. This will help greatly.
- Don't take the short-cut: Sex is not just about penetration. Take your time and engage in foreplay. Try subtle and simple ways to stimulate him without really aiming for an erection. As long as both of you enjoy the intimacy, nothing else matters.
- Try new things: Massage each other, explore both your erogenous zones, practice different sexual positions or just wind down with a bubble bath. Make your man feel good enough to rediscover his body and desire for you, in unusual ways.
- Use humor: It is known, that humor effectively hunts down anxieties and obsessions. Why not crack a joke once in a while? Your partner will loosen up more easily, in such a scenario.
- Seek help: If communication, gentleness and seduction do not help much, consult a specialist together, or separately. Whatever works for both of you. If you're in it together, you can win it together!
Also read: 6 Foods that can kill your erection.
Medically reviewed by Rishabh Verma, RP