There was a time when there was no television — forget smartphones and Netflix. Sex was the to-do thing before going to bed. Just what you needed to get deep sleep. However, times have changed. Hectic lives, the intrusion of technology in the bedroom, and other similar factors have given rise to insomnia or inability to sleep.
It is a fairly common problem. Research reveals that about 30% of people have trouble sleeping, and 10% suffer from chronic insomnia. The chronic version is defined as disrupted sleep and usually happens thrice a week for at least three months.
Insomnia can lead to some serious sexual health issues. It also increases anxiety levels and affects the amygdala. The amygdala is a brain part, which is responsible for regulating emotions.Men often end up with severe performance issues when they are dealing with insomnia. It’s tough getting a snooze at their place, so imagine being in a new house and bed. It’s natural they don’t get any sleep at their partner’s home. As a result, they are no fun the next day — or simply lack sexual drive.
What are the root causes?
Binging in too many electronics right before you go to bed is a serious problem. Ideally, sleep experts suggest that you should switch off all electronic devices at least 30-40 minutes before going to bed. Try neutralizing the light and say no to Netflix, Amazon, etc.
But humans have always defied laws of nature. If it’s not Netflix binging, it’s seeing something on the phone or using your laptop!
Thanks to all of these, falling asleep in newer settings can be worse, especially true in cases of one-night stands.
How to combat the issue?
If you are dealing with insomnia, having an elaborate at-home set-up can help you get to sleep.
Some of the options include:
- Sound machines
- Essential oil collection
- Night masks
Not sleeping well also impacts your partner. If you are constantly turning and tossing in bed, it is natural that someone on the side would get affected. It’s suggested that you be honest about your insomnia. You can say something like, ‘I’m glad we are enjoying this and a good time, but I just can’t sleep here.” Explain you have to sleep on your own bed because of insomnia. Alternatively, try inviting your partner to your apartment instead. You can also check with them in the morning and thank them for understanding your issue.
It is not necessary to ruin relationships just because of insomnia. Try reducing Netflix binging and read a paper-book for a change. If you have to stay at your partner’s house, play some soothing music, or switch off the light and talk for a while. This might actually help you in the long run. But most importantly, be honest and consult a sleep therapist rather than losing sleep over it.