Be it millennials, gen X or baby boomers, social media platform has kept everyone hooked. Apps like Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat has become the centre of our lives. 24 hours without them feel like a year, right? Now, I agree these apps and similar technological advancements have made our lives easier, but our addiction to being constantly active on social media is bad for our personality, productivity and love life.
#1 One of the biggest advantages of social media can sometimes act as adversity for you. Social media platforms help us stay connected with our past and present at the same time. While this can definitely bring back some good old memories but at times, it also eliminates the boundary that stops unwanted and toxic people from making a re-entry in our life. And if I go by the saying of our grandparents and parents - The past should be left in the past. Being in touch with your ex-partners over social media can keep your dead past alive in ghost mode in your present. This can affect you and your current romantic relationship at an emotional and psychological level.
#2 Your life on social media is like a free ebook, a few clicks and everyone has access to it. Opening your life to the world via social media brings an unspoken rule of etiquette into action, the golden rule of offence. For example, if your neighbour sends you a follow request on Instagram, you will come out as rude if you don't accept it. And when you do, they will get the view of everything that is going on in your life and then they will judge you. Worst-case scenario? If they happen to be way too nosey, they might stalk your profile and send a request to your family members or partner. This can cause unwanted tense in your house.
#3 Social media platform can be the biggest comparison hubs at times. See it this way: people often believe that what they see on their phone screen is an actual representation of real life. Seeing people getting clicked on beaches and getting likes and compliments on the way someone looks, make people think that a person is living a picture-perfect life. However, reality can be different. Unaware of it, people often compare their healthy and beautiful self with someone who seems physically appealing on social media. This can develop self-hate within a person which can negatively affect his relationship. After all, no one will love you, if you will not love yourself.
#4 Another way in social media affects our relationships is by bringing uninvited insecurities in our lives. The habit of constantly checking your partner's online status or stalking every new person he/she adds as a friend can develop insecurities and mistrust which can damage a beautiful and healthy relationship with the blink of an eye.
#5 Do you also reach for your phone the moment you wake up in the morning? Or are you often busy glancing that blue screen when out with your partner for a date? If your heart shouted - YES, then my dear man, your social media presence is not working in your favour. Flicking through your phone every now and then, even when you have a company can make your partner feel less wanted and underloved. This for sure is not good for your relationship in the long-run.
Being on social media is fun and it keeps you updated with what is going on around you, helps you stay connected with your long-distance friends and family members and makes your life easier. But, getting involved in your virtual life way too much can disconnect you with your real-world life and people in it. Just make sure that while you are busy checking out the photos under the #couplegoals, your couple-ship doesn't sink.