This adage is as olden as Adam and Eve’s apple-gulping fiasco, which further substantiates the saying – To err is human, to forgive is divine. While the forgiveness part might be a tricky one, you can definitely avoid some embarrassing hiccups in bed. Let’s find out the common mistakes made by men in bed.
Men and women are inherently different creatures:
Our brains are wired differently, so is our anatomy, which should not be forgotten. When males find a mate attractive, they may have a partial instant reaction resulting in an immediate libido. In contrast, when women find a male attractive, they don’t get the tingly sensation. They rather make a mental note of the good-looking attribute of the male species. However, this in no way means that they find you undesirable; only the message conveyed comes from a different route.
Don’t shy away from expressing the pleasure:
The silent act fizzles out the chemistry between the partners. Men shy away from expressing what their partner is doing, whether it is good or bad. Don’t overdo it, but at least let your partner know what’s working for you and what’s not. This will significantly enhance the overall performance in bed.
The slow pace of women to get aroused:
Let’s get one thing clear- women like to be teased with and played with in bed. Their arousal time is at a slow simmer and takes time to reach a crescendo. Once they do, it is all fireworks from there. If you get frustrated with her slow pace, it is bound to get disappointing for her as well. She may get self-conscious, and it is sure to impact the overall mood of the bedroom. So, sit back, relax, and enjoy the sensational foreplay. Enjoy the sweet nectar when it is ripe.
Foreplay is the key to the cave:
Do not underestimate the power of foreplay; most men breeze through the act of gentle or hurried kisses and enjoy the act of undressing. There is a certain glam and shimmy to it. But the desperation is not going to win you any brownie points. Let it happen on its own; go with the flow. The right amount of foreplay and the sexual buildup may even get you a recurrent invitation.
Sex should be good, but it isn’t all about that mumbo jumbo of the performance: Men think higher the performance, better her satisfaction rate. It is not entirely false, but it is also not what it is made out to be. There are several things a man can do in bed to please their partner. It has been said before, will be said again; one word: Foreplay.
Unfortunately, to last longer in bed, men tend to tune out some thoughts and go into an isolated mental space, makes the women think that they are not into them. Use this time to whisper sweet nothings in her ear, and make her feel good about herself. Also, if you do reach climax faster than anticipated, tell her that she is too sexy for you, and you couldn’t resist.
Remember, the great substitute is oral sex, so get that tongue working, guys.