Now watching porn is something too common and a very much a debatable topic when it comes to, does it amount to cheating or not while in a relationship. We have all watched porn at sometimes or the other, and men, in general, are more fond of porn than women. Now coming to the core area, well, a lot of people think watching porn is cheating because usually anything that you have to do secretly, hiding it from your partner, doesn’t look or sound too healthy for the relationship. It can be sexting someone else or going on a dating site and watching porn. For example, when you are looking up for a road map or watching web series, you don’t need to delete browser history or set it to private, right? But for porn, one usually does so. So, especially when you are in a relationship and have to hide something from your spouse, we generally don’t consider that healthy.

Now coming to cheating, although some experts would love to argue that it construes to cheating since, while watching porn, your mind releases the hormone oxytocin, which helps you bond with porn instead of your partner! But again, what people feel on the same, is a different story altogether. In a study that was conducted to find out people’s views on porn, it was found that 73% of respondents from the US and 77% of respondents from Spain, didn’t feel watching porn while being in a relationship, constituted to cheating. Also, surprisingly, people who said that they thought watching porn is cheating, were mainly singles and mostly from the US.

Now, if you ask us, we would love to disagree that watching porn in a relationship is cheating, mainly because we believe in one fundamental aspect, which is he or she is not defined by what he or she watches. Let us now see a few reasons as to why watching porn doesn’t make him or her a cheater, as long as they are not addicted to the same or overdoing it!

1 It satisfies one’s fantasies safely:

Now come on, we all are human beings, and sex is an integral part of our lives. Although relational sex is great and is a beautiful way to bond, connect, and develop intimacy, we all do have our own small world of sexual fantasies. Like women love to fantasize bondage, being taken advantage of, rendered helpless, men too, have their fantasies. Now the difference between reality and fiction is, what we fantasize we may not want it in the real world. Like, no women would actually want to feel taken advantage of! The same applies to men. They love sex in the real, but a little bit of fantasizing things makes no big deal.

2 It helps us acquire some skills:

Here we don’t mean the overdramatic part of porn, but like everything else, sex is also an art in itself, and there are various ways in which you can arouse, stimulate and satisfy your partner. Watching porn does help us acquire our particular skills and also let us determine what we like and what we don’t. So even if you are watching porn, it’s kinda okay, as long as you are watching something smart and sexy!

3 Masturbation is good:

Masturbation is good, both for men and for women, and a little sensual or erotic graphics like porn, helps to supplement the same. Now imagine you are on a solo trip away and your libido is high, it’s any day safer for your relationship to watch porn and masturbate than hit on the hot chick next to you in the bar to find yourself waking up next to her in the morning! Also, masturbation has its own health benefits, like while in females, it can help relieve stress, in a male in can even help reduce the risks of prostate cancer!

4 What you watch doesn’t define you:

Now, this is simple. If you have been watching every episode of a cooking show, just the way it doesn’t make you a chef, watching porn, doesn’t make you a cheap star! In short, we fail to make our logics work when it comes to porn, which is not fair. There will always be a difference between fantasy and reality.

5 Helps couples with different libidos:

Now, although it’s desirable, it might not be feasible for you and your partner to have the same levels of libido, making a demand-supply mismatch. Porn helps fill in that gap, making sure the sexual needs are being met, without disrespecting the boundaries of the relationship.