Being in a relationship is a strong commitment made up of the ingredients of varied emotions, responsibilities, and trust. You get attracted to a person, fall in love, get married, or be in a live-in relationship, ultimately seeking a happily ever after!? Know that it sounds good only in fairy tales, but in reality, relationships can be a roller coaster ride for couples as life always sails through the high & low tides, it is never a cakewalk. Being a strong couple is always important for your relationship to be successful and to hit that happily ever after goal. In some cases, this deep love may turn into an obsession.
Obsessed in love?
Yes, there is a criterion for obsession in relationships called Relationship OCD (Obsessive Compulsion Disorder or ROCD). It is classified as a disorder that has twisted many people’s lives and has made them suffer. It profoundly impacts sexual life, emotions, and sometimes physically too. People suffering from ROCD tend to doubt their partner’s loyalty. Having a pinch of jealousy can be healthy as your insecurities hint your deep love for your partner. But these thoughts could be adverse and illogical for a person with ROCD. It can potentially pave the way to bring distance or a gap in your bonding, intimacy, and sexual activities.
Signs of obsession!
Am I the right man for my partner? Has she stopped loving me the way she used to? These are some of the questions often pop in the mind of persons with ROCD. If you are getting such questions, it might be an indication of ROCD. The situation can go worse when you start to doubt that your partner might be having an affair; your partner is not suitable or attractive anymore. Constant thoughts and questions seeking relationship authentication as in whether it is the right one or you have made a mistake is ongoing turbulence in the mind of a person suffering from ROCD. Such individuals require their partners to reassure them and claim their loyalty every day.
Many know what they are going through, as it tends to make them mentally and emotionally weak. They pretend to be strong and often start arguing with their partners. They end up comparing their life based on the definition of a perfect relationship they come across on blogs, articles, and YouTube videos.
Such unfounded behaviors extensively affect you and your partner. It can affect your sexual life and distance you from your partner emotionally, which is furthermore damaging with respect to your current situation. Common myths about ROCD are – “Once you find The One, you cannot find other people attractive” or “You should feel passionate, and in love all the time, you cannot think of any other emotions,” etc. Such myths are just like tales; they sound ideal but is less likely to happen in this frantic world.
What to do?
Well, do not worry. There are treatments for ROCD, which is similar to that of OCD. All you need to do is just visit a certified therapist or a doctor and explain all your insecurities. Also, open up with your partner. Do not worry about what he/she might think of you or judge you after explaining your situation. If not, then what are partners for? Think about it, and make a wise decision before rooting misunderstandings that result in separation. It is never late than never again. Thereby, spend time with your partner and take the treatment as prescribed. Soon your relationship and your sex life would be like those first times when you hooked up with your partner and had an endless stream of comfort, assurance, infatuation, love, as well as desire.