Premature Ejaculation (PE) is the second most prevalent sexual disorder among men after Erectile Dysfunction (ED). As many as one in three men are affected with Premature Ejaculation (PE), an affliction in which men ejaculate within one minute of getting an erection or before. However, ejaculation anytime before the man or his partner wants it, can also be termed as Premature Ejaculation (PE). In most cases, the affliction causes severe distress to the man and even to his partner.
Men afflicted with Premature Ejaculation (PE) are known to shy away from sex or relationships as they are apprehensive of the partner’s reaction to his condition. To make it easier for them, we have gathered information on how women feel about their partners having Premature Ejaculation (PE).
Well, given that a woman’s mind is still an unresolved conundrum, responses of women to men having Premature Ejaculation (PE) vary from being unaffected to bolshie to harbouring mixed feelings.
A lot of women do not consider Premature Ejaculation (PE) to be a big deal; a few of them are so much shocked at it that they would terminate their relationship over it; while others feel relationships are so much more than just sex that they would not mind the partner having PE if the other aspects of a relationship are beautiful.
That said, it is always important to have a comprehensive understanding of certain aspects of your partner’s reaction if you are affected with Premature Ejaculation (PE).
Here are some of them -
Premature Ejaculation (PE) does affect relationships.
Premature Ejaculation (PE) has the potential to ruin relationships for several reasons -
· Women are known to complain not so much about the quick sex, but the partner’s obsession with his erection duration and performance, which they found stressful and conflicting. Women also share that in their zeal or anxiety to perform, men with Premature Ejaculation (PE) tend to avoid foreplay which they find bothersome.
· Secondly, men having Premature Ejaculation (PE) often feel ashamed of the condition and tend to hide it from their partners. This, in most cases, leads to conflict as the woman feels neglected, or cheated upon or considers herself unable to attract her partner. This miscommunication or lack of understanding of the real picture creates distance in relationships, antagonism and bitterness.
· Lastly, it is essential to understand that sexual problems are most likely to affect your relationship in the long run and it is extremely critical to admit, seek help and get treated of the affliction at the earliest.
Your partner deserves to know about your condition at the earliest.
If already in a relationship, do disclose about your condition to the partner immediately and seek medical help. Communication is the game-changer here, and hiding will not take you far. With proper communication, you can convince your partner about your condition and make her ready for the way ahead. A collective approach to deal with this completely treatable condition is the best way forward.
That said, if you have Premature Ejaculation (PE) and are in the dating zone, you need to be very careful about choosing your partner. Patience is the only way to take. Start by being friends and see how it goes. It is better to gauge the mindset of the potential partner before disclosing about your condition. However, do disclose about your disorder to the partner before having sex, or she may feel betrayed or trapped into the relationship.
Do not stop looking for partners just because you have Premature Ejaculation (PE)
Premature Ejaculation (PE) is not the end of the road for love and relationship. You must keep looking for the right partner, but, to start with, come to terms with your condition. Only then look out for relationships. If you are not okay with your situation, how can you expect your partner to be okay with it?
Also seek medical help by all means as Premature Ejaculation (PE) is a treatable disorder which can be completely cured. Premature Ejaculation (PE) can cause very complex emotional reactions among men. If you are going through such emotional turmoil, go to a therapist to share your experiences with Premature Ejaculation (PE). This will help you know how to deal with your condition and will also alleviate your depression and stress. Not only will this stabilise you emotionally and enhance your self-confidence, but will also better prepare you for the future partner so that you can do justice to the relationship.
Seek treatment by all means
Whatever the partner says, do seek medical help by all means. Please do it for yourself as you deserve a healthy body over anything else. Remember! Health is wealth. Premature Ejaculation (PE) does affect your confidence level and also your relationship in the long run. Also, even if your partner is fine with your condition initially, she might grow resentful eventually.
Another possibility is a change of partner. What if your existing relationship ends and you seek a new partner? Your new partner might not be okay with your Premature Ejaculation (PE), and that will ruin the prospect of a long term partnership right in the beginning.
Chances are your existing partner will be upset if you look for a cure against her wish.
Though chances are slim but don’t be surprised if your partner gets antagonistic on your getting cured of Premature Ejaculation (PE). This happens when the woman is moved out of her comfort zone and feels insecure. Living with a partner having Premature Ejaculation (PE) gives a woman a sense of complacency and also a sense of total ownership of the man. Once out of that comfort zone, she might feel threatened at the prospect of competing with other women for her partner. On the other hand, men also tend to get more experimental on cure and often indulge in sexual escapades with other women to gauge their new-found virility.
Still, in all likelihood, your woman would be only too happy with your cure, as she will be the first if not the sole beneficiary of the resultant positive impacts.
Imperfections make us human. Let us accept them with dignity!