Arguments in a relationship are bound to happen because neither did we marry a robot, nor did we marry ourselves. We married a human who comes from a different background, lifestyle and thinking. My wife and I decided to take marriage vows because we love each other.
There is no reason than love that encourages couples to live together and keep moving in their lives. I admit that the more we disagreed with each other on various aspects of our lives, the more our relationship has become more reliable. With each passing day, I have learned how to handle arguments and win my wife back with more passion.
If you are having a tough time with your partner, go through my tips below to help you handle relationship issues like a (gentle)man:
1) Listen and then speak:
Many times, my wife would start arguing with me for no logical reason. I have been at the receiving end even on those occasions when I am at no fault. Initially, I felt my wife had lost it. But as and as I started listening to her problems, I understood that all she wants is extra care and affection on the days when she is emotionally vulnerable. So, the point here is always first to listen to understand and then take action towards a solution to the problem. The problem can be yours or hers - but the end goal is to resolve it and overcome the situation.
2) Lead by example:
When I tell my wife to calm down, and things will be fine, I say that because I believe in what I say and do. Looking at my relaxed face and sweet tone, my wife automatically comes out of her panic mode. Your approach to deal with your wife's complaints can be different but ensure that whatever you do or say, you also follow the same. If there is a mismatch in your speech and behaviour, then chances of managing the situation, go for a toss. Because no one likes to follow a person with an unstable mind.
3) Help her in her daily routine work:
My wife tells she is a superwoman and can manage everything on her own. But there are certain days when the superwoman doesn't have the required energy to meet everyone's needs. She may not say it, but being a good husband or life partner, you can help her out in her daily routine work.
Ask her to sit for a while and watch you cook a meal or wash the dishes or do the laundry work. Simple acts go a long way in showing how much you care for her even when she doesn't grumble. The feeling that you are there for her come what may erase all her worries and make her fall in love with you all over again.
4) Be polite and courteous:
Anyone can say any nasty thing at the heat of the moment. If you were rude to her and hurt her feelings, then it's time to say sorry! In case she removed her frustrations on you, it's time to express how low you felt hearing her verbal abuse. Probably, that will make you both understand and respect each other more.
It doesn't take a lot of effort to be a gentleman. All you need to do is understand what is ethical and what is not and stick to the right choice.