We’re about to get biological and real in this article, but the ultimate point does stand - foreplay is more important if not just as important as sex. We agree that sometimes during spontaneous lovemaking sessions, lack of foreplay isn’t a complaint - but the regular times, it matters, for the benefits of both sexes.
When it comes to dishing on foreplay or the lack thereof, women are more publicly vocal about its importance while guys limit their venting to their friend groups. Penetration sex isn’t the only thing that makes sex pleasurable. Foreplay is the best part about sex, most would say, and somewhat underrated. Men have the ability to be aroused in a few minutes while women take time to get there. Engaging in foreplay helps make sure that both partners are at their peak of arousal - making orgasms so much better.
Foreplay helps in enhancing the moments before sex, getting your body ready for a natural process, causing the lead parts of the show to lubricate. Science has spat wisdom, saying that foreplay can lead to better orgasms and longer sex. If you’ve had sex, you understand what science meant by that. Biologically speaking, your body is intended to provide lubrication for sex to be pleasurable and pain-free. Lack of lubrication can cause either party to feel uncomfortable, and it can be painful, too, because of dry friction. Lubrication is most commonly brought on by excitement and anticipation during foreplay.
What’s foreplay, you ask? It’s something that sets the mood with some candles, romance and cozy music - or whatever you like, we went with the Hollywood stereotype there. It can be anything from hugging, kissing, caressing to fondling, undressing, and oral sex. Those being the most obvious methods, people don’t realize that commonplace acts like eye-locking, dirty talk, or a neck massage also constitutes as foreplay.
Merging Biology - the need for it - and psychology - the want for it, experts say that foreplay helps not only with physical intimacy but emotional intimacy as well. Sex is pretty intimate, so that makes sense. Foreplay should primarily be in the centre of the action for long-term relationships. There are only so many ways one can have sex and years of being with the same partner can take down the spice a notch - foreplay can help with that. It requires effort from both partners; the type of intimacy it sparks can make sex much more pleasurable and satisfying emotionally. Being turned on is a thing for a reason, you know.
Through communication - sounds, body language, or a straight-up intervention - and repetitive bedroom time, couples are able to grasp ways to make a move. The best way to reap the benefits of foreplay is to know and understand what your partner likes. Paying attention to your partner’s preferences and having them pay attention to yours takes out the possibility of unsatisfying sex.
It may be obvious how foreplay is essential for pleasurable sex, and while some forget in the heat of the moment, the above are reasons why they shouldn’t.