I woke up at 6 am to do my morning chores, and he was sleeping like a kumbhakaran. When I came out from bath, he was brushing his teeth. I love to keep staring at him when he is shirtless. It's not because I am a fan of his looks, but I love it when he does anything to please me. Yes, he knows I am a Salman Khan fan, but he also knows that I accept his body as it is, with no judgement or comparisons.
It's been a week since we made love due to certain family issues. I know how eager he was to ensure that we spend some good quality time soon. We both decided to come back from office a little earlier than usual so that we can sleep early. The moment he came to the room, I confessed to him that one week of not making love was making me so anxious about losing him. He pacified me saying things happen for a reason, and I should now focus on the 'now' and not on the past.
When we started caressing each other with love and sensuality, I suddenly recollected a scene from the movie Dirty Picture where Vidya Balan was making some strange sounds while making love. Being a newly married woman with a lack of sex education, I innocently asked my husband, what was that? Being a non-movie buff, he replied, saying he is not aware of what I am talking about. I enacted the scene infront of him and asked him why she was showing as if she has got some breathing trouble. He laughed at me, saying she was having an orgasm.
I was excited about hearing the new word 'Orgasm' in my sex dictionary. I asked if I can have a similar one. He laughed at me, saying that orgasm is the peak of sexual excitement and need not be the same for every man and woman. Before he could get irritated with my curiosity, he stopped me with a long kiss and said he would answer my queries the next day. We both enjoyed making the steamy night a more memorable one.
After the sexual activity, he wanted to sleep, but I was full of questions. How can he sleep peacefully if his wife is awake? So, we sat together, and he ensured to clear all my doubts.
He told me that when he has an orgasm, his muscles contract and the semen having the sperm comes out of the penis, which makes him not have another orgasm for that night
Whereas, if I am sexually stimulated, I can have more than one orgasm even after a short period of time. Also, he said that having a lack of knowledge of sex and worrying over it can hamper the idea of enjoying an orgasm. So, I need to go with the flow, understand what works for me in the sexual intercourse, and then define my orgasm or sexual climax.
Many people feel aroused or get sensual feelings while kissing, undressing each other, taking a bath together, massaging, exploring each other's bodies, communicating transparently and honestly about what they like and what they don't in their sexual activities.
For example, my husband would tell me to remove the flowers from the hair as he doesn't like its smell whenever he comes closer to me. So, that's an honest way of expressing what one likes and doesn't, and it also helps to make each other comfortable in the sexual performance.
My last question to him was if oohs and aahs can lead to great sex? And he said orgasm is not a necessity for great sex, but it can help us to get a stimulating mood for achieving sexual pleasure and shaping an intimacy for mind-altering sex. It varies from person to person, and with practice and time, one can get an idea of what works for a happening sex life.